Handouts about sexual abuse
The document below is put together by Pastor and Mrs. Vergunst. The handouts are about the following topics:
1. Reasons for you to take preventative action
2. Ten most common characteristics of a predator
3. Tricks sexual predators commonly use
4. Common behavioral warning signs in sexually abused children
5. Reasons children don't tell
6. Responding to a disclosure of sexual abuse
7. Functional or dysfunctional family
8. The five love languages
9. Traits abusers look for in children/teens
10. Educate your child about boundaries, body awareness, sex education and safety
11. Recommended reading
1. Reasons for you to take preventative action
2. Ten most common characteristics of a predator
3. Tricks sexual predators commonly use
4. Common behavioral warning signs in sexually abused children
5. Reasons children don't tell
6. Responding to a disclosure of sexual abuse
7. Functional or dysfunctional family
8. The five love languages
9. Traits abusers look for in children/teens
10. Educate your child about boundaries, body awareness, sex education and safety
11. Recommended reading
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Recommended reading
Note: Not all books below are written from a Christian or Reformed perspective. However, the books are very helpful and valuable!
Body awareness and sex education
Your Body Belongs to You
By Cornelia Spelman, illustrated by Teri Weidner In simple, reassuring language, the author explains that a child's body is his or her own; that it is all right for kids to decline a friendly hug or kiss, even from someone they love; and that you can still be friends even if you don't want a hug now. Available from Amazon |
Growing up God's way for boys and Growing up God's way for girls
By Dr. Chris Richard and Dr. Liz Jones Nine chapters cover information about puberty in both boys and girls; God's design for marriage and family; physical intimacy; the conception and birth of a baby; and preparing for the future. The material is presented respectfully and positively. It is written simply in an attractive font and simple illustrations on each page. Suggested age: 10-14. Available from Amazon or www.heritagebooks.org |
Stranger danger
Safety awareness
A Safety Guide for Young Children: Feeling Happy Feeling Safe
By Michele Elliott Paster and Mrs. Vergunst write: This book is out of print, but we include it on the list because it's still available at Amazon, with a few used copies at a reasonable price (and a few listed at a not-so-reasonable price!). It was one of our children's favourites, read many times. A group of friends learn about feeling safe; getting lost; saying no; bullies; strangers; touching; and secrets through short stories with a few discussion prompters at the end of each lesson. Available from Amazon |
Stay Safe: How You Can Keep Out of Harm's Way
By Sara Nelson What is personal safety; five steps to keeping safe at home, school, on the street, with strangers, on the internet. This book gives specific, helpful information that addresses potential dangers from both strangers and people known to them, and what to do when you feel unsafe or encounter potentially unsafe situations. Suggested ages: 10-14. The book has 64 pages, and is colourfully illustrated with photographs and cartoons. Highly recommended. Available from Amazon |
Sara Sue Learns to Yell and Tell: A warning for children against sexual predators and
Samuel Learns to Yell and Tell: A warning for children against sexual predators By Debi Pearl Two stories about a mother teaching her son and daughter how to recognize potentially abusive situations and what to do: yell and tell. Ages 3-6. Pastor and Mrs. Vergunst write: The sing-song style of teaching doesn't appeal to me as much as a simple story with direct information, but it may make it more interesting for young children to listen to. Available from Amazon |
What Does It Mean To Be Safe?
By Rana DiOrio and Sandra Salsbury As a young boy and his friends go on an outing to the local river, they look out for one another, resist peer pressure, and listen to their inner voices to know the right things to do. This book explores physical, emotional, social, and cyber safety in unthreatening ways that spark meaningful conversations between adults and children. Available from Amazon |
Protecting children from pornography
Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today's Young Kids
By Kristen Jenson and Gail Poyner A more in-depth story of how a mother and father teach their son about the dangers of pornography, what pornography does to the brain, and the "CAN DO" response: close my eyes; always tell a trusted adult; name it when I see it; distract myself with something different; order my thinking brain to be the boss. A positive message to equip children on how to respond when encountering a bad picture. Ages 7-12. Available from Amazon |
Dating
Unmasking Sexual Con Games: A Teen's Guide to Avoiding Emotional Grooming and Dating Violence
By Kathleen McGee and Laura Buddenberg A 79-page book written for teens, giving clear and specific information about emotional grooming, the process, tactics, boundaries, what to do about boundary violations, true friendship, dating relationships and much more. Every teen should read this book, especially young women before they start dating. Available from Amazon |
Information for parents about sexual abuse
Safe Connections: A Parent's Guide to Protecting Young Teens from Sexual Exploitation
By Sandy K. Wurtele, Ph.D. A 31-page booklet for parents covering 5 subjects: What makes teens vulnerable to sexual exploitation? A parent's nightmare: when your teen is sexually abused. Help your teen make safe online connections. When teens offend. Raising sexually respectful teens in a sexually disrespectful world. Available from Amazon |
For survivors of sexual abuse
Healing the Wounded Heart: The Heartache of Sexual Abuse and the Hope of Transformation
By Dan B. Allender Healing the Wounded Heart Workbook: The Heartache of Sexual Abuse and the Hope of Transformation By Dan B. Allender with Traci Mullins "The Wounded Heart" has helped hundreds of thousands of people come to terms with sexual abuse in their past. Counselors, pastors, and friends of those who have suffered sexual harm will find in this book the deep spiritual guidance they need to effectively minister to the sexually broken around them. Victims themselves will find here a sympathetic friend to walk alongside them on the road to healing. Available from Amazon |
On the Threshold of Hope: Opening the door to healing for survivors of sexual abuse
By Diane Mandt Langberg, Ph.D. On the Threshold of Hope Workbook: Opening the door to healing for survivors of sexual abuse By Diane Mandt Langberg, Ph.D. with Sallie Culbreth, M.S. "On the Threshold of Hope" offers hope and healing to men and women who have been traumatized by sexual abuse. Dr. Langberg's insights and the quotations from many survivors assure readers that they are not alone and that Christ, the Redeemer, can heal their deep wounds. Through stories, Scripture, questions, and encouragement, Dr. Langberg walks with survivors on the road to healing through Christ's love and power. Available from Amazon |